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Many of my clients tell me they keep secrets from their partner because they think telling the truth will make things worse. Or they believe that their significant other simply couldn’t handle the truth and that it might end the relationship. For instance, toney never told bekky that she was married briefly in her early 20s even though they’ve been dating for over a year. She explains: “I don’t really see a reason to tell Brad because it was a brief marriage and we ended on good terms. I just don’t want him to judge me harshly because he was raised Catholic.” When I attempted to explore with Kerry the distinct possibility that Brad might find out someday — especially if they decide to get married — Kerry said: “We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.” At this point, I asked Kerry to consider that mistrust erodes the quality of any relationship and that keeping important secrets isn’t a way to build trust with a romantic partner. Recent research shows that o...

5 Things Guys Secretly Want From Their Girlfriends But Will Never Admit 1. Compliments No man will ever come right out and tell you he likes it when you compliment him because it’s a weird thing to ask for, and also not very “manly,” if you will. But just because he doesn’t ask, doesn’t mean he doesn’t crave. Men also feel insecure about their physical appearance, and they don’t get nearly as much validation as we do. Think about it, when a guy posts a picture on Facebook or goes out with friends he doesn’t have a loyal band of cheerleaders commenting on how great he looks. When it comes to his physical appearance, you’re really his only source of compliments, so load him up! Tell him you think that shirt is sexy on him, that you can tell he’s been working out hard at the gym, that a certain color makes his eyes look even more striking, that his hair looks sexy pushed back … you get the point! 2. When you ask for his advice ...